Question

We are facing an urgent issue trying to adopt our foster children. DHS in Oklahoma wants to take them and adopt them with older siblings, even though they have been with us for so long and the youngest (almost 4 years old) since she was 3 weeks old. We have an attorney but are fighting a very stubborn DHS.

ACT's Response

Bonding is a significant reciprocal attachment which both parties want and expect to continue, and which is interrupted or terminated at considerable peril to the parties involved. Bonding is likely after three months of 24/7 contact, probable after six, and almost certain after 12 months. Interrupted bonding is significantly correlated with an increase in childhood and adult mental illness, adult crime and violence, homelessness, and poverty. Bonding, when it occurs, should take precedence over blood kinship if the best interests of the child are to be served. I recommend that you obtain a copy of our book, "Bonding and the Case for Permanence," and arrange for a Bonding Evaluation. Good luck!

Originally posted

September 9, 2011 - 10:30pm

Last updated

September 15, 2011 - 10:41am